In this short story, I’m going to show you how to pick up women without memorizing routines or pick up lines. Without wearing stupid clothes or accessories. And without doing much thinking at all.
Sound too good to be true? It’s not.
It hit me when I was watching these “lady killers” pick up girl after girl…
I didn’t need to use pick up lines or “techniques” to be successful with beautiful women.
What I needed was what these guys had.
But I didn’t even know what they had so I how could get it?
So I kept on going out and just studying what these “naturals” were doing until I finally figured it out.
…they had Zanshin.
Now I know you are asking “What the hell is Zanshin?”
Zanshin is a Japanese word that has no direct translation to English. It is a trait that someone develops through awareness and experience.
Instead of defining it, it is easier to show you what it is through a a quick story:
“There is a correlation to zanshin in our culture: cool. A person can be cool under fire or cool headed or just a cool dude. In all cases, it is a projected aura of competence.
Rory’s first professional experience in this field (Violence) was working as a bouncer in a casino. He and his partner were escorting a foul-mouthed drunk out when he turned and swung.
Rory ducked and the drunk connected solidly with his partner. Two hot young martial artists versus a drunk and it turned into a wrestling match under the roulette table.
Their boss came down from his coffee break. Jim was old – he’d retired from the military as an MP and then retired from the police force. He’d come to work as a shift supervisor in the casino simply because he couldn’t imagine not working.
He came down the stairs with a cigarette dangling from his lip, a full cup of coffee in his hand, and casually walked over and knelt on the drunk’s neck.
The drunk went limp. Jim took a sip of his coffee and said, “You boys think you got it from here?” Then he went back upstairs to finish his pie. He didn’t even spill his coffee. Jim was cool. Jim had zanshin.”
Now that story may not seem like it relates to picking up women. But it does.That story was an excerpt from the book Meditations on Violence by Rory Miller.
And while violence and dating may be very different fields, the same principals still apply.
You see, most PUAs (Pick Up Artists) and gurus teach you how to pick up women by teaching you things to say and things to do around women.
I prefer a different model…a more effective model.